PAIRS Now Video Highlights

Levels of Learning, Stages of Relationship, and Three Hopes/Three Fears reveals the foundation for beginning the priceless journey of marriage and relationship education from a place of acceptance, forgiveness, and understanding.

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PAIRS Relationship Roadmap introduces the core concepts of PAIRS unique approach to helping singles and couples learn practical, proven skills for lasting love, happiness, pleasure and fulfillment. The Relationship Roadmap, a new paradigm for understanding intimacy and love relationships, begins with an exploration of the root causes of pain and pleasure, considering symptoms and signs of happiness and unhappiness and their connection to the deprivation or fulfillment of biologically-based needs, including the human need for bonding.

Communication Skills for Lasting Love: Part I examines communication Stress Styles, positions that cause relational distance. A role-playing exercise offers a chance for participants to connect with classmates before returning to their partner to explore the Leveling Style, which promotes clarity and understanding.

Communication Skills for Lasting Love: Part II reviews qualities of Good Talking and Good Listening as a backdrop to introduce PAIRS Talking Tips as a tool for Confiding a Concern and embracing the value of listening with empathy.

Daily Temperature Reading introduces five easy to follow steps to create an environment for more open communication, appreciations, proactive problem-solving, and a future in which individual and shared dreams and ambitions have the best opportunity to come true.

The Love Bank introduces the importance of regularly nurturing relationships that are most important in our lives, including the need to openly express what behaviors and expressions make us feel cared about and loved and recognizing that those behaviors and expressions change as circumstances change over a lifetime.

How to Go from Anger, Fear and Sadness to Relief and Love includes considering early messages about feelings. Was it okay to be angry, scared, worried, or sad? The Emotional Jug is introduced to explore behaviors that may interfere with the ability to experience feelings such as love, pleasure, desire, tenderness, and relief, including ways of dealing with those emotions that may be helpful in some areas of life, such as work, while damaging in others, such as marriage/family. Emptying the Emotional Jug is introduced as a tool for beginning to uncover and release pent-up emotions and improving the capacity to listen with empathy as a valuable gift to intimate relationships.

Fundamentals of Dealing with Conflict: Emotional Stages of Development explores the impact emotional attitudes have on our ability to navigate differences that are a natural part of close relationships. In examining these Emotional Stages of Development, you'll learn to recognize their contribution to ongoing conflict and understand a range of new possible behaviors that may lead to greater closeness and relationship satisfaction.

Fundamentals of Dealing with Conflict: Dirty Fighting identifies dirty fighting styles, or actions, that make things worse, fueling conflict that can, and often does, sabotage relationships.

Learning to Fight for Your Relationship demonstrates a new model for conflict resolution in which significant others are on the same side against the problem and not against each other.

Heading Off Relationship Conflict and Power Struggles introduces the Powergram as a tool for considering how couples and families make decisions, including areas of autonomy, influence and those that require agreement.

Love Knots: Hidden Expectations that Sabotage Intimacy and Untangling Love Knots explores hidden assumptions and expectations in love relationships that may appear to be true but are not. Consider the impact and price that is paid when we operate with these hidden assumptions and learn to untangle these love knots to build a path to greater understanding, compassion and support.